Robert Bly: The Architecture of Beautiful Grief. What Iron John Builds (Men's Work, Ep 3)

Episode Three, Robert Bly: The Architecture of Beautiful GriefWhat Iron John Actually BuildsRobert Bly was a poet. A Harvard-educated, National Book Award-winning poet who gave men permission to grieve. For many men it was the first permission they had ever received. Iron John spent sixty-two weeks on the New York Times bestseller list. This episode examines what the tradition built around that permission actually produces.ExaminedRobert Bly, Iron John: A Book About Men (1990).Key PointsBly described the forest with extraordinary beauty.

He stood at its edge and named what was inside it. He did not go into the forest with the reader. The book points at the entrance and leaves the man to make the descent alone.Affect regulation through shared experience is a real psychological phenomenon. But affect regulation is not integration. Feeling less alone with your wound is not the same as healing the wound.The tradition built a hierarchy of grief. The men at the top were the ones who had been performing grief the longest.

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