Why You Feel Empty After Giving Everything (Coherent vs Incoherent Sacrifice) | Ep 536

You can give everything you’ve got to your family, your work and your relationship, and still end up feeling empty. In twenty years as a therapist I watched this happen to a lot of good people, and it had very little to do with how much they were giving and almost everything to do with what they were giving it to. Here are the two kinds of sacrifice, coherent and incoherent, and three questions that tell you which one you’re making.The Atlas names the pattern running your life in a single sitting.

It is built from twenty years in the chair and the thirty-three books of Michael Lauria, a qualified therapist, author and philosophical mythologist. It takes about forty-five minutes, costs nothing, and ends in a written Record of that pattern, drawn from your own words. It is not therapy and not for crisis. Begin here.(00:00) Why you can give everything and still feel empty(01:25) The two kinds of sacrifice(03:21) What coherence means(04:00) Two parents who give the same amount(06:41) Reaching the top and feeling nothing(08:33) When giving in a relationship wears you away(10:33) The two years I made more money than ever(12:12) Three questions to ask yourself(12:32) First: did you choose this, or just take it on(13:00) Second: what it’s doing to you as the years go by(13:24) Third: how you expect to feel when it arrives(14:00) What the people who got better did(14:50) Where to startMichael LauriaThe Architect

How this page was made: the text is the episode's own show notes from The Architect Speaks, written by Michael Lauria.