Confusing being needed with being loved | The Death of the Savior

You're the one everybody rings when something goes wrong.

"You've confused being needed with being loved, being useful with being valuable, and you've confused carrying others with having purpose, rescue with connection."

From my book The Death of the Savior.

Early on, you worked out that people kept you close when you were useful, so you made yourself useful, and it felt like love because they stayed. The fear underneath is that if you stopped, nobody would stay.

Most people have a pattern like this running and don't know it's there. If you want to find yours, do the Atlas. It names the pattern running your life in a single sitting. It's free at codexofthearchitect.com