Why Loving Parents Behave So Badly in a Divorce

Ep 546: Why Loving Parents Behave So Badly in a Divorce

Why do decent, loving parents behave so badly when they separate? Almost every separating couple with children starts in the same place, at a kitchen table, promising to put the children first, and they mean it completely. Within a few months, things start to happen that nobody planned.

After twenty years as a therapist, I show you why the war that follows usually isn't between two people at all. Separation takes away the container that held both of you together, just when every old wound is most afraid, and the conflict becomes a conflict between fragments. You'll hear what the children actually absorb, what I learned from my own messy divorce, why an explanation is not an excuse, the three things a coherent separation asks you to give up, and what to do when you're in the middle of it.

Tell me in the comments something you said or did during a separation that you only realised later wasn't really you speaking.

Michael Lauria

The Architect