Why You Resent the People Who Did the Most for You

Ep 547: Why You Resent the People Who Did the Most for You

Why can you resent the very people who did the most for you? Your mother rings, and within two minutes she's mentioned how much she gave up for you. You put the phone down furious, and a minute later you feel ashamed of feeling furious.

After twenty years as a therapist, I show you why the guilt about that resentment was never yours to begin with. You'll hear where the voice that says after everything they've done for you comes from, the condition that so much help quietly came with, why resentment is grief for what you gave up, the two kinds of sacrifice, why a boundary script so often fails with family, and the one question that shows you what's really holding you there.

Tell me in the comments the one thing you do for someone that you secretly resent, and what you think would happen if you stopped.

Michael Lauria

The Architect